Baby Face

There has been an ongoing issue since before we were engaged that has sparked more drama and discord between us than any other issue. To shave or not to shave. That is the question.

Doorway man has very coarse facial hair. When he goes more than 24 hours without shaving, his beard is like a wire brush that chews my face off when he kisses me. Unfortunately, doorway man thinks that shaving once or twice a week should be sufficient. He says it's very irritating to his skin to shave, he usually gets really bad razor burn and cuts himself, so I know this is true.

During the period that young men learn to shave, my beloved taught himself because his dad was not involved in his life. So I also think this is a training issue.

Anyway, I started off using positive pressure to get him to shave more. I would kiss him a bunch and call him Baby Face, and tell him how much I loved his smooth face. Praise, praise, praise. Positive, positive, positive.

This did not work.

Next, I resorted to begging. I complained about my raw face and tried to reason that if he shaved more, it would get less irritating to him.

This also did not work.

Then I resorted to anger and hurt.

This obviously did not work.

I am now in the phase of trying to find answers to the problem. Last week I bought him a shaving kit with a badger brush and ceramic cup and soap, as well as a anti irritant creme lotion.

He finally used it after days and days of my relentless nagging. And he said it helped with the irritation. My next step will be to see if I can find someone to make sure he really knows how to do it properly and teach him better technique.

This might work.